Tips For A Well Balanced Life

Sometimes life can be a mess. Kids need to go to school, you’re late for work, your boss asks you to stay over working hours, your partners is demanding more time and attention from you, the house is a mess, and needs a proper cleaning, the garage is full of clutter, and the list can go on and on. And on top of these, you want, perhaps, to start your own business? Maybe a passive income? Because at that stage, money feels like the only thing that will get us out of the mess. Only if I could have enough money to afford to pay someone to do the cleaning, or if I could earn more money but work less, so that I can have more time with my kids, myself and my partner. Yes, I get that. I want that too.

Wealth doesn’t come when we live a messy life. Happiness is definitely not a state of how much money we earn or have, but more about our inner state, our mindset. However, I feel the need to mention, that yes, money could help a lot with many of the things mentioned above, but the point that I am trying to make here, is that even if you had all the money in the world, if you don’t have the right mindset, hearthset, healthset, and soulset, you still won’t be happy.

Maybe you are not in a position where you can control the amount of money you make at the moment, but for sure, you can control your mind, your thoughts and obviously your actions. So, let’s start to focus on that first. Let’s live a well balanced life, and the good things will start to appear in our lives.

Before we start, I just want you to know that a well balanced life for you, it might be different that a well balanced life for your neighbor, your work colleague, your friend , your sister,, or your brother. So, don’t judge people’s life, just because they are not living the way you do it. You are a unique person, with your own visions and goals, and you have your own standards for a well balanced life for yourself.

Be yourself. Everyone else is already taken.

Robin Sharma, The 5AM Club

On your journey for a well balanced life, there are three main areas where you need to focus: your mind, your body and your soul/heart. Let’s start with the first one.

Your Mind (MINDSET)

1. Set a clear vision for your life. What is what you want to do with your life? What is your ideal career choice? What is your ideal love life? How about your ideal family life? What motivates you to wake up early in the morning and have a world class day? What is that you want to accomplish for the next 5 years? How do you want to live your life? How do you want to feel while doing what you life? What is that you want to be remembered for after you die?
2. Set goals for yourself (personal and work related), and write down how much time you allocate to get there. Make a strategic plan on how to get there , and the timeline.
3. Do what that you like. Life is too short to do what you don’t like to do. Learn, study, experience, move on. You are not a tree to stay in the same place all your life. You can call yourself a successful person only when you do what you like. Otherwise, it doesn’t matter how much money you are earning, if you don’t like what you do, you will not consider yourself a successful person (although others around you might).
4. Take time to relax. You need time to recharge your batteries once in a while. Take holidays at least once a year, more often if possible. Go out for dinner once a week, or have a take away. Find a hobby and practice it.
5. Keep your house and your work space organized and clean.
6. Develop a relationship with your own mind. Analyze yourself. When are you at your best? When do you come with the best ideas? What motivates you? What doesn’t? Ask yourself questions like these, and try to understand your own way of thinking.
7. Ask help from exterior. Yes, if you did all of the steps mentioned above, and still feel like you need more, find a personal coach, a therapist, or a mentor, all depending on your needs. If you have a friend that you admire, he or she could be your mentor. You can develop that relationship and get closer to that person.

Your Body (HEALTHSET)

1. Pay attention to what you eat. We are what we eat. Eat slowly and enjoy every single bite. Take your time. Eat with a friend. Try to stop eating 2 hours before going to bed, if possible. Eat healthy foods, rich in nutrients.
2. Drink water. Our body and our brain need to stay hydrated throughout the day.
3. Exercise. Go for short or long walks. Or to the gym. You don’t have to be an extreme active person, but you can do at least 10 minutes of physically exercises every day, to improve your health.
4. Rest. The quality of your sleep influences your level of commitment, how well you focus at work, and how you behave throughout the day. For awesome performance and results, you need to have a high quality sleep. We spend 1/3 of our lives in bed. Invest in a good mattress. Sleep between 7 – 9 hours. Don’t use electronics at least 30 minutes before going to bed (1 hour even better). Read a book instead. Aim to wake up without the alarm. Listen to your body. It will tell you when is the time to wake up. Try to avoid waking up in the middle of a sleep cycle (that is when you will extremely tired). Has it ever happened to you to wake up at 4:30AM, felt all rested, but you thought it was too early so you went back to sleep? When you woke up 2 hours later, you felt super tired? That is because you woke up in the middle of your sleep cycle.
5. Focus on your breathing. Try mediation, or yoga, to learn better breathing techniques.
6. Solar light. Enjoy the light from the Sun as make as you can. The absence of Sun light can lead to depression.

Your Soul/ Heart (SOULSET & HEARTSET)

1. Repeat to yourself as many times as necessary:

Life is too short for …. !

In the dots you can fill whatever bothers you at that moment. Did someone at work just bothered you with a negative comment? Life is too short to care what he/she thinks. Did your partner upset you? Life is too short to stay upset. Life is too short to spend it defending my choices to people around me. Life is too short to spend it arguing with others. And the list can go on.

2. Fix the broken relationships. Don’t wait for the other person to come to talk to you. Be the better person and go fix it.

3. Don’t put pressure on yourself. Stop living other people’s expectations. Live your own life, the way you want, not the way the others around you what you too. Remember nr. 1 : Life is too short to live up to someone else’s expectations.

4. Don’t be too serious. Allow yourself to smile and laugh every day. Be playful. You are here to enjoy life. A day without laughter is a day lost, said Charlie Chaplin once.

5. Find some quiet time for yourself and for your thoughts: meditate, pray or write in a journal.

6. Be thankful. Find 3 reasons to be thankful for at the end of the day (or in the morning). Do that every day.

7. Be kind to yourself and to others around you. Remember, be the change you want to see in this world.

Remember, only reading these tips, will not help you to have a well balanced life. It is the ACTIONS you take that will change that. So, start acting on it today 🙂 Hope to hear from you in the comments sections bellow.